The cycle of emotional and verbal abuse, the vicious cycle of discard and demeaning of people is atrocious. He said almost nothing about his childhood, and seemed to have no sentimental memory of anything. My ex claimed he wasnt having sex with his new supply six months after they got together. ( my friends should say now.. yeah right you Always say this) I went through them myself, and also hear about these same Narc behaviors from my clients. They have gained absolutely nothing by doing this to us First thougt no dont believe it.. See, before he went to my landladys house, he didnt really know I was purposely in no contact mode. A few days ago one of my coaching clients contacted me with an interesting request. But he has taught me the game so now I am always one step ahead of him. She did not lash out in extremely mean ways, or ever cut herself (from what I am aware of) but everything else screams BPD. 18. Also, everyone learns in their own time. You dont want to touch that and those diseases. With all of their comings and goings, its naturalto wonder ifthis time, when they leave, its the final time. So interesting to read everyones stories. Then i got weak again. But the real challenge is when he contacts me. She stated to me she had know idea what the situation was, but when she found out she was upset and removed herself from the situation. Bipolar, Addict, Narcissist who would have thought that this is who she turned out to be ? Think about it, we still Love them, even after everything awful & unforgivable that they have ever said & done to us, we still can & do Love them. Our nieghborhood has its own beach, were on the waterway. Twice shes also been informally diagnosed with Bipolar by 2 different therapists. just to see how later she would emotionally and physically abuse me and turning everything on me. Respect yourself and go no contact . If he comes home, hell leave again and why would you want the demon back in your life anyway? No engagement is the best way to handle this kind of event. All Very Shocking & Very Sad For them keeping you blocked is just a gesture of stupidity and childishness. I just told her I was sincerely sorry for the news and hung up. Today, he showed up at my front door. I would be re-integrating by his grace, he would look to my presence on the hill with my glider as something the narcissist has made possible by this fresh start should I thank him each time I arrive should I bow each time I pass should I offer thanks and carry his bags from the car as I have observed the person identifiable as a possible next victim doing. I WAS VERY SICK 1/2018 W pneumonia. I was taking the blme for things i never did .I loved quan deep down in my heart . I ran into a mutual friend at a bar one night, and she was one of his facebook friends. They mirror us & so We all basically fell in Love with Ourselves !!.. I dont know enough about borderlines but they do say narcissists usually have something else with their disorder ie sociopath narcissist, sex addict narcissist..maybe he is a borderline narcissist. Once they know you are on to them, they will do everything possible to shut you up. I suppose the mindset of the Narcissist is that youll miss them so much, youll forget about what they did or said to you. -Overall disinterest in partners family and/or friends Best yet, she seemed to adore me, and always talked about how gorgeous I was and what an amazing guy I am, blah, blah, blah, I dont know anything about the other guy except that she used to tell me how nice of a guy he is. The woman whom he triangulated me against is not happy, because they use to meet and walk their dogs. However, this is where I am and I accept that I arrived here on my own two feet. Then finally, as I am actually feeling better these days, starting to discover I have thoughts of flying fluttering around in my mind, visiting other pilots and even getting up to the launching places I have yet to fly but I trust that this will come soon so while I am manifestly getting better and confronting the anxiety and the confidence issues related to the abuses I have suffered this olive branch suddenly places my re-integration in a frame made by the narcissist. Thats why to get many of them in the same group is no surprise to professionals, so the term psychopathic mob was coined, and what me and you are in, is known as character assassination. The point is we should always be aware of these when meeting a new prospect! It is all a game to them Well, the narcissist will sucker punch you, but theyll do it emotionally. I know what that feels like. They will never let you go. Being in his presence makes me feel sick to my stomach even after all this time!! My bruises didnt show for two days. He tried to make me jealous with a over-weight woman who glares at me. You see, creating an illusion of happiness is a narcissist's favorite form of post-breakup damage control. So empty. I feel bad a baby was brought into this and that they lasted a long time so far . Still hasn't happened. I cant believe I found this page. 1. So we talked. But the clincher is, he didnt know that I knew he ended their friendship..and during our last big argument he tried to say that they have a bond that most ppl wouldnt understand. She asked for a jury trial. I dont know about the sex because he found it difficult to get it or keep it up towards the end of us as I was onto him and was setting boundaries, the stress was killing his libido I think, hence the reason this new target suits because she is careful and that suits him because he cant perform ? My ex narc recently started calling and texting after 9 months of silence. Just read it and also watch the videos. Narcs cant admit real hurtespecially when they know you are finally serious about dumping them. It's part of a healthy ego. I have to agree with Kim. He thinks he is a master. What did i find? Daily posts to her family and the friends id still never met on how wonderful he was. We cant hate because thats not part of our makeup. This man i was with for 20 years cant possibly be best friends with the new girlfriend of 7 months. This was via email. He said he was enlightened by some of my comments (I told him he was turning into a dirty old man, a pervert-he didnt like that mirror at all) and still loved me wants to stay together. But everywhere i go there is something thats remainds me of or laughter, our same thinking and taste of everything. They will always try to come back into our lives. Yes, I adored her. The long talks we had and the support he gave me even though he did that to make himself feel good, really helped me at a time when I was at my lowest. Almost three weeks still not heard from him. Anyway, Saturday, I get two texts; the first one was Good Afternoon. But I know now. So, I shut him down. Hes like yah last few weeks Ive fantasized about it. Taking her money spendingit on me . I know if he hadnt come along I would have gone back for more. That answer depends on the type of person you are. But I really dont think there is hope for them. I responded and got no reply. So, back in January my best friend and I were inseparable and she was always at my house or is there. While we certainly dont deserve it, its important to understand what it is about ourselves that made us decide to let our partner get away with it. Mine was of all things a I cannot explain it. The problem is that it can get synced up with the narcissistic abuse cycle so that the level of dopamine in the brain drops when we are not in contact with the narcissist. The one who really understands him. I love being your answer. They may even have tried to use manipulative techniques to keep us in the relationship, such as threatening to hurt themselves or to hurt us. He probably is out having revenge fun now. -Not giving partner recognition for things that normally would be considered very nice gestures of sharing but always expecting recognition for theirs Remember, they are narcs and only care about appearances. I hit the bottom a few months back and have been at the Choice Point for some time. That person may reach out to the narcissist, puzzled, to find out what happened. Yes loyalty is NOT their strong suit thats for sure. let them back in in anyway and you will find yourself back at Day One, curled up in a fetal position. I think he believed he loved me until I called him a pathological liar. Second, Im watching it play out. I read the letter first and I believe- I was guided to it for a reason. perfect boyfriend behavior). Reclaim your inner power, disarm the narcissist, and finally stay congruent with your wish for a healed life! After days of intense greeve and tears mostly for the big quetions of this relation.. he came and told me he has something with a man. I had heard that Narcs dont know what they are but I think deep down they do. Yet, as a good narcissist, he exactly knew what to do. I told him that I have forgiven him because I am a good person and because I pity him. When I say Im in love with you, I love not being alone. You will survive and you will give yourself the opportunity to find a healthy love. Basically, she was a runner. She ran away from all her problems and responsibilities. Where they accuse you of not making sense. The lies and the illusions never stop. But the higher i fly the deeper and harder i fall. This thought helps me in my recovery because it gives me all the answers I need. I was in love with the way he made me feel. I am simply bringing awareness to the masses that women can be just as cruel, and in SOME cases (not all by any means, but some) can even be harder to get over. Thanks for sharring. He had the nerve to ask if I still hated him??!! I had PTSS at that time from it. Im done with her now. The term is character assassination. There are only a few people that I really want and need in my life. But maybe he just forgatten me. They see a therapist because theyve got a genuine desire to improve their lives not only for themselves but for their friends and family members. "Apologizing" for their behavior. Perhaps we were the ones to try to end it and attempted to explain why. However, out of the blue, your ex unblocked you but hasn't reached out. So perhaps we can all utalise that hurt to think what have we gained from this HORRIFIC, life changing ordeal & experience ?? The plan is to keep you within reach. Dear all, there is a lot to learn from all of you. 2 years into the relationship I found on facebook that he had moved in with one of the women on the telephone bill. I found him again on dating websites, 3 profiles on POF different ages, different names. Im glad you are able to get some sort of relief from reading my posts. My ex husband and I had been together for 14 years, we married on our 7 year anniversary. When i asked him Why and he Said sorry it was a Joke. We have all been there. Anonymous, I find what you said to be quite unfair. And now travel back in time almost 17 years Wed known each other three years, but had only been dating for six weeks at this point, as he first had a string of others he labeled everything from bipolar nymphomaniacs to bisexual stalkers. They always have to keep that web in the background intact, and youre a part of it now. I see you are able to understand your Ex cognitivelyalthough the experience has left a stamp on your heart. Since we only had a few weekends together, I never got to see her really bad side, and outside of cutting me out of her life and lying, she was a peach to talk to. She says she told him as far as I know shes still living there. Be careful Eden. He attached to me because I was easy prey. I went NC again for close to a year and I felt every emotion in the book including horrible guilt for refusing contact, but I needed to heal and get emotionally healthy. His cold and indifferent. This is Not about YOU & I all of the way its expressed and conveying true meaning of this relationship dynamic. When the next argument arises and it will, you will be devalued and discarded and its all your fault. THERE IS NOTHING THEY DONT KNOW EXACTLY ABOUT WHAT THEY ARE DOING AND WHY, NO UNCONSCIOUS!!! I pray you have found a Christian counselor who can help you to truly forgive all those you need to forgive and to receive the necessary healing to move forward, however God may lead you. 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