Started Monday at 06:41 PM, By Our relationship will never be more than friends. Again I'm so worried. Some people are brutaly honest and would never cheat. I think as long as a couple is totally happy and equal that's all that matters. That's why I wouldn't go out to a bar without my SO. It wasnt just that, he was a flirt. He he knows your always in he feels safe. the next morning he said he was wasted with a bunch of his friendsand hes not the type to cheat on a girl, but who know what can happen when their drunk you know? i talked to him today about it, and he just apologized and said that its he knows he;s ***** up. He was drunk and he is supposed to go to work in the morning. While this can be a helpful resource for some, others are using these platforms to self-diagnose and potentially harm their mental health. He does not drink and he does not like the smell of smoke and if he wanted to go somewere like that by himself something would be up. If her spouse or at least one co-worker were there, then no problem, but not one on one (unintentional pun). We have no problem with this and neither do most of the couples among our friends. But not everyone would know the difference. Also, you've officially met a women who has no attraction whatsoever to other women!! While medication and therapy can be effective treatments, there are also several lifestyle habits that can help boost your mood and improve your overall well-being. So back to your question. Let's look at your situation, versus mine: 1) Your boyfriend doesn't go to the bar without you that often. If it becomes a constant thing of going ot the bars all the time and it eats into your time with him, which is what my bf wants to do, then you may have something to worry about. Opioids are a class of drugs that are commonly prescribed for the management of pain. To an insecure girlfriend, she might assume guys' nights consist of heading to the strip club, then going to a seedy rub-and-tug afterward. Probably. As social media continues to grow in popularity, more and more people are turning to platforms like TikTok for mental health advice. Life doesnt begin at 30, dont let anyone tell you different, I feel hurt and embarassed bec he doesnt reply to my text. Every hour of his free time doesn't have to be dedicated to you. I feel any interactions should be allowed but also feel that if you're in a committed relationship and someone has an issue with a particular person your relationship comes first obviously and while you won't be "controlled" by your spouse you should definitely take their opinion into account and compromise and adjust behavior accordingly. I think that is how the trust goes both ways. What is good for one family isn't always what's good for another. Yuck. That is exactly what's going on with me. The whole idea that you never go without each other to parties is quite frankly absurd. Plus it's annoying for the fellas to have that one guy who's always checking in. He knows I'll come home relaxed and happy. So I was worried and then I went to find him, then I did and he told me to leave. (ok i'm being nice, i think it sends that message loud and clear, because men are horny pigs :) -said with love lol.) Am I crazy for being upset? I like how you worded it. Holy crap youre a dick. i dont really know how to feel about this. That, combined with him expressing a desire to do MORE of this bar-going WITHOUT ME and spending less time with mePLUS he comes back from the bar, telling me about girls that are hot for himit's giving me some serious issues that are threatening our relationship. Can Guys Just Be Friends with Girls? https://www.mamapedia.com/article/question-for-married-women-only, https://www.mamapedia.com/article/my-hubby-do-not-let-me-go-out-when-i-wanna-have-a-girl-night-outwhy, https://www.mamapedia.com/article/poll-on-men-and-frienships-w-women, https://www.mamapedia.com/article/can-guys-just-be-friends-with-girls-updated, https://www.mamapedia.com/article/can-men-and-women-be-friends-2673, https://www.mamapedia.com/article/discussion-dash-having-single-friends-when-married, https://www.mamapedia.com/article/opinions-on-having-guy-friends. You are going to be better off for it, and I think that rocks. So drinking isn't something we *enjoy* doing. I can understand how those people who *enjoy* drinking, will likely go out often to do it. That being said we aren't glued at the hip and I am not his mother, so if he wants to hang out with his buddies or I want to go out with my friends for a girls night, neither of us has a problem with it. However it's phrased it shows a lack of security or trust. It's not that we can't go out, we J. don't want to. A few times a year I'll go out dancing with my friends (my husband despises dancing) and once in a blue moon I'll meet someone in a bar to chat. So my boyfriend is becoming much more distant as of late. Of course I was a little disappointed but then he got mad and I had to accept it because I didn't want to lose him. My husband and his friends will have a "guys" weekend once a year. Delivery & Pickup Options - 59 reviews of LongHorn Steakhouse "We went for lunch on a Saturday. Going To A Bar Alone Is Cool If It's Just Temporary. To use this example: "I don't want to be . He would not even go somewhere like that without M. J. cause that's who he is. He probably went to bars like 2-4 days a week. ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, 21 hours ago, ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, Monday at 07:16 PM, ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, Monday at 07:24 PM, ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, Monday at 07:29 PM, By Yes, crazy to let someone else's actions that do not directly affect you upset you. I arrived alone and I left alone. Most importantly, he calls you when he gets home. I love him but he doesn't seem to put any effort. If I wanted to go out to a bar with a bunch of girlfriends my husband would tell M. to have a good time and same for himthey guys go for a drink after work, sure join them (J. let M. know so I don't have dinner waiting). Neither of which is good for a rel'ship..I mean, unless you're going to a bar to see a band..or maybe do karaoke or something. Once again, if that behavior changes, you may want to reconsider your approval of this behavior. But when it seems to be an all night thing and it's an always and never, those are telling signs that something isn't normal. CinnamonRoll Even if you don't actually go out. We dont live together, we arent married. But there's obviously cases where the spouse is comfortable with the environment like you described J. M. so I don't see an issue. It hasn't been my thing since I was about 22. Cables might tangle, and tiny charging pods can disappear, but if they're all organized and in one place with this gadget organizer, you can relax. It doesn't bother my husband. Anyways, tonight he is going out with his buddy (whom I have met) and he let me know. I read a story and call it. if your partner does these six activities without you. Here^s what I got from what I read: 1. Ya know, and I think this is important, if someone I hung out with gave Troy a bad vibe I would not question his vibe, I would stop hanging out with that person. I actually encourage my husband to go out with his friends though.. 9. It is a neighborhood place that serves beer and wine.. but also burgers and stuff. Clubs and bars are places to find one night stand and occasional sex partners. I do what I CHOOSE to do. I am ok with him going once a week as long as it is only guys. I have no problem because I love girls weekends. People need to stop being so sketchy and selfish. I trust him, too. AskMen, Become a Better Man, Big Shiny Things, Mantics and guyQ are among the federally my boyfriend and i are long distance and i'm in college. Wear anything other than what I usually wear? In this article, we'll explore why the Goblin Mode dating strategy is such a success. I want to flirt, touch and pay lots of attention to him. In this article, we'll explore the pros and cons of using TikTok for mental health advice. He was at the club for our college. I had an ex bf from years ago. I was always like, I can't help it, we're in a bar and apparently I'm a hot commodity, ha! I tell it like it is. Well, the other day i decided it is completely ridiculous. So I asked him and he said the girl bit him. Troy loves M. and only M., he wants only M., you put him in a room with naked women he would have the most uncomfortable look on his face. Luckily for us both, neither of us are the 'bar/club going on a regular basis' kind of people. He goes to bed without me (20 f) now and we sleep back to back. My friends are like family to M. and I get so much warmth and strength from them. My husband will not go out to bars or clubs without M., he thinks it is wrong and makes him uncomfortable.in his defense he is devilishly handsome and gets hit on like no one I have ever seen, so I get where he is coming from. since I'm an adult no one LETS or ALLOWS M. to do anything. So I spend quite a lot of time with people who are not part of my nuclear family. He might also be addicted to such acts, or have a compulsion to self-soothe' through intercourse. So if you know your husband goes to the townie bar, gets all excited to see the regulars, cheers when people walk in, picks ladies up so they can feel girly, and flirts, then yes, you shouldn't feel bad to do the same as long as you are both feeling happy about it and having fun. Rather than saying, "My girlfriend wants to go out alone with her friends," and feeling like you're losing her, work on deepening the attraction, love and respect that she feels for you. help!!! The answer is to behave appropriately while there. I have male friends that were servers there who are friendly and are known entities (we have occasional cribbage tournaments). But if your out. I go out with my girlfriends, usually a dinner and drinks at the local dining place. I feel like that is dangerous behavior. Granted we shouldn't keep people on a leash and there are a lot of things going on with a LDR but how can you truts someone like that? So, with that being said, if he wants to go out with his buddy once a week, its fine. I really prefer dinning room tables and strong coffee though. he doesn't drink at all and i practically never do. ahhh thats the one=) I haven't been there since January so it was a nice change. If it doesn't work, try a new combination. Boyfriends are different than husbands. You still can go out. And if I'm going for a walk, to the grocery store, the gym, or out with my best friend, I make sure he knows where I'm going, when I'm going, and when I'm on my way home. Anyway what are your thoughts on the above situation? Tech Organizer. Is it okay for a boyfriend or girlfriend to go out to bars or clubs without you twice a week? Like your man, my girl would often text me while she was out, telling me she was thinking of me. We are comfortable with each other and trust each other 100%!! He helped make me feel comfortable in gay nightlife and, eventually by extension, being gay in everyday life. WE did just make up from a fight couple days ago. What scares me is my jealousy. Be In Touch with Him. Seinfeld (/ s a n f l d / SYNE-feld) is an American television sitcom created by Larry David and Jerry Seinfeld.It aired on NBC from July 5, 1989, to May 14, 1998, over nine seasons and 180 episodes.It stars Seinfeld as a fictionalized version of himself and focuses on his personal life with three of his friends: best friend George Costanza (Jason Alexander), former girlfriend Elaine . It's good "guy" time doesn't bother M. Now, if it was a strip club he was going to, my answer would then be no :). Before telling your partner something like this, pragmatism demands some thought first to how much you're asking and expecting a person to change. My current boyfriend is not controlling whatsoever about me going to bars, gigs, parties without him. He stays out all night and turns the ringer off, pfffft. Also, my bf will flirt with girls, and I find out about it the next daythis doesn't make me too happy. What are your feelings on that? Get a shock collar too so if steps out line you can zap him. New episodes air Mondays on Facebook. Me and my boyfriend have talked about how we felt several times that we trust eachother so much to the point where if i dont talk to him for three days and i know hes at some crazy parties, i wont feel so worried and we trust each other so much that we both openly said that we could kiss other people if we wanted because truly we both know it wouldnt be real and that we love each other. I'm literally going through the exact situation. Most of the time I go out with my husband, but that is because we don't get very many opportunities to be out together and so I really want to be with him. I wouldn't meet a girl at a bar alone, either. Ziff Davis, LLC BBB Business Review. Really.? I thought this was an interesting point of view, and it made sense because women are in touch with the emotional side of attraction more than men are. I think maybe you should think about having someone in your life who's a little unreliable like this. Waiting outside the bar for your friends is also weird. Even in a long distance relationship, especially, in a long distance relationship, there has to be respect for trust to continue. I saw some people I know and I guess we go there enough, some of the staff know M. by sight. I am her first serious boyfriend as well, her only other boyfriend was a relationship that only lasted about 3 months. Well, honestly, he only goes once every week-2 weeks. My husband LOVES when I take off to the pub for a pint and a good read. I have a friend that I met on eharmony. Yes I go out with out my husband.. if Im talking to anyone and they try to pick M. up using thier cheesy lines I let them know right away Im married. He TEXTS YOU while he's OUT WITH THE BOYS?! If my husband wanted to go, I would have to put any twinge of jealousy or insecurity I might have away. Your feelings are valid. But I get it. "I guess it depends from one man to another. I envy those who can go out. He didn't, not because he couldn't be trusted around other women, but because he was/is an alcoholic. Most chicks out here don't go out to bars as singles. My boyfriend goes out, spends time with his friends, and drinks on the weekends. S H said it great, however i would add that the only way i go out is either with "the girls" or with my husband. xx. But, to each his own! I feel for you too. 2023 ZIFF DAVIS CANADA, INC. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. I do not drink but I go to have girl time and chat. I had to sleep with him I was his wife, she chose to sleep with M.. Effed up but true. So no - when we were dating I did go out dancing quite a bit with my girlfriends - and of course we were hit on - but I never went home with anyone or to anyone other than my hubs. In any event, simply do what you feel comfortable with and if you particularly don't want to go topless in front of your friend's fella keep your bikini top on, wear a onepiece swimsuit, or suggest to your dh that the pair of you slope off to another part of the beach where you won't feel so inihibited. That's different. Yes I go out without my husband and he without M. in mixed company. I could understand drinking a little too much, but once you reach the level of passing out that borderlines alcoholism. So, I told him i dont want him to feel he has to ask me whenever he wants to do anything. He eventually earned my trust back and went to a bar with his friend. Like myself. Night after Friday night, he'd ask about my week, make jokes with me during lulls in the bar rush, and never charge me for my vodka buzz. He sounds like a really sweet guy and even likes to text you while he is out. I'm generally surprised by how many people are against interactions with the gender you're attracted to. Yes, if you've provided all the details. How do I know, bad breakup. But don't be anxious, you are good enough and I'm sure he loves you like you love him. I have done a few "ladies' nites" with some of the other moms from my son's school. He didn't let me know anything. So she keeps sending snapchats.. but wont text/call me. Happy couples need time apart and to. before we were married my wife went out with her friends every couple of weeks to the bar seen. But even if I could go out it wouldn't be to a bar. This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies. It wouldn't matter who it was it would be that they don't want to be around us that would bug M., ya know? We asked if we could use the gift certificate right then for lunch and still get the $5 off coupon. What I'd really prefer though is to go out with a few drinks with HIM! While telling him your problem just say I know its long distance which makes it hard for the both of us but I feel like I wanna talk to you more, and it worries me that you're always drinking and im afraid that there might be another girl out there. Call/text/in person, etc.? My boyfriend and I met in Australia a few months ago after traveling Thailand together we both went our seperate ways, whilst remaining in a relationship. Ahhhh, the Casino has a hold on him. You were. I'm personally not attracted to women. . Let's face it - we all know bars can be totally unconducive places for relationships. Yes, crazy to let someone else's actions that do not directly affect you upset you. It's really important to M. that I have connected, powerful, deep friendships. That's called a rule change. When you do that, she will want to stay home with you because she'll be afraid of losing you. Thats fine, because it isnt like I want to get permission every time I want to have a drink with my gf or go out for a girls night out. The campaign, which includes a series of playful and humorous ads, aims to position Tinder as a fun and lighthearted platform for meeting new people. Sure, you're at home Jonesn' about it, but that's ok you'll make it through, and he'll appreciate it. So *would* I go to a bar w/out my spouse? Anyways, that is the past, but you know how the past has a way of coming back and biting you in the behind! There's really very little I can do to *make* him act with integrity and honor, besides doing so myself. If after talking about it you still object to him going to strip clubs, that's okay! The alternative is to . You have to put trust into each other. I personally would not do that. Now I am talking about a friend that I talk on the phone to and interact regularly with. Um, not if you don't let it. Hi dan,my girlfriend and I are together for 2 years now,and its the 3rd time that she has been to the club without me,she even says that she doesn't want any commitments now,where as I do,During these 2 years we haven't been to a club together,and I don't know what's going on behind my back,but she goes with her elder girl cousins to . It is all because of my trust issue. Even though I know he wouldn't just the thought of my boyfriend getting drunk worries me that he will make a bad decision. 14. To M. it seems like it's J. some women who are attracted to women, not the majority. Sorry - J. reality in my world - you haven't made a LIFETIME commitment to your boyfriend - hence the fact he is bf and not dh. We know where the lines are where each of us are comfortable with and neither one of us has ever crossed it. The fastest way to see a mans true colours if he does run, even better. At some point it stop all of us out of here undertaking 2am. The good thing about that is when he turns M. on or says sexy things to M., I don't have to turn him down and I get to go home with him! J. my opinion but it isn't for us. My husband occasionally goes out with friends for a round of golf and then to a bar afterwards, I've never really given it much thought but I also trust him and am not worried. Bars are not not my scene. We had been friends and pen pals for years. He will even grab people and tell them to go dance with M.. Its actually funny the looks he gets from people when he does it. I have seen some of the married women that do. My kuwait he text me day and night but no telphone call. Traveling for work aside, if your partner tries to leave you behind, that's probably not a great sign. But even if that's your case, can you honestly say you don't have a hand in it? Go out one night and iignore his calls till the next day and then just say oh sorry baby I was wicked drunk. If he doesn't give you the reaction your after. but again, i think you're in a completely different place. I have more guy friennds than girlfriends. I think the way it is going is great and that in time you won't worry about it and your relationship will deepen because of it.. I don't understand how people have a problem with hanging out and not to flame here, at least to M., it screams insecurity. As far as I know he doesn't hug other women, pick them up or flirt with themif he did I would have a problem with that, because it's not the type of guy I'd want to be married to. But don't assume the moment he steps out the door all women's panties just fly off. See how he likes it. Also we fully disclose everything before we even do something so we will ask the other. I trust him to make choices that won't betray my needs and wishes (this wasn't always true). i doubt we are even close to being in the same places in our lives. Karmic Relationships: What They Are & When To Leave, According To Experts, 5-Ingredient Meals That Everyone In The Family Will Love, 30 Women's History Month Facts That'll Remind You How Badass Women Are, 8 Black-Owned Parenting & Baby Brands To Try, What Parents Are Talking About Delivered Straight To Your Inbox, By subscribing to this BDG newsletter, you agree to our. To M. that is not a friendship. If you want to keep this guy then you will have to learn to give him his freedom. So..he and I need to discuss all this, and if he's not willing to change, I may have to walk. But understand that it is an opportunity for something to happen because you are specifically putting yourself in that situation. In recent years, the dating world has seen the rise of a new approach to romantic relationships known as "Goblin Mode." 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